Category: sex

  • Jane Austen He’s Not
    Pierre, or The Ambiguities by Herman Melville.  Library of America pp.1-421.  **1/2 It’s a bad sign when you finish the book and breathe a huge sigh of relief. I have enormous admiration for Herman Melville.  Of all the 19th century American novelists, his career has the largest span.  He began with popular books like Typee and Omoo, ...
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  • Born Writer
    What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Blacker by Damon Young.  Harper Collins.  320 pp.  $15.99 Damon Young is famous as a blogger, co-founder of the website Very Smart Brothas, and in What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Blacker has done something deceptively difficult: pulled together a collection of essays all of which stand perfectly well on ...
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  • The True Purpose of Addiction
    Notes During a Pandemic Rereading Dolores LaChapelle’s Sacred Land, Sacred Sex, Rapture of the Deep, I’m struck by things I had read before, but can also see some limitations of the project.  She had a deep understanding of Daoism through her long Tai Chi practice, for instance, but her writing about Daoism is hampered by the ...
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  • Young Master Surpasses His Idol
    The Durrell Miller Letters 1935-80.  Edited by Ian S. MacNiven.  New Directions.  528 pp. ****1/2 In 1935, 23-year-old Lawrence Durrell wrote Henry Miller a fan letter about his novel Tropic of Cancer, which he had either found discarded in a public lavatory (the story he told) or was lent by a friend.  “It strikes me as ...
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  • Exeunt
    Clea book four in the Alexandria Quartet by Lawrence Durrell. Dutton.  287 pp.  ***** It’s hard to know what to say at the end of the Alexandria Quartet, a “word continuum” that has occupied so much time during an intense period.  Reading is a vital part of my life, and for however many weeks it’s been, ...
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  • The Night Everything Changed
    A Single Scene from the Alexandria Quartet Even now that I’ve finished, I continue to be obsessed with the Alexandria Quartet.  I would love to know how much Durrell envisioned when he began the work.  He had supposedly been planning what he called his Book of the Dead (his early working title) for years, before he ...
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  • Darley Takes a Break
    Mountolive volume three of the Alexandria Quartet by Lawrence Durrell.  Faber.  884 pp. ***** The most startling thing about Mountolive is that all of a sudden we have no narrator.  Darley—who told his own story in the first volume, then absorbed corrections from Balthazar in the second—is nowhere in evidence, though he’s mentioned occasionally in passing.  ...
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  • Books of a Lifetime
    A House for Buddha by Ross Parmenter.  Woodstock Press.  529 pp. Sacred Land, Sacred Sex, Rapture of the Deep: Concerning Deep Ecology and Celebrating Life by Dolores LaChapelle.  Kivaki Press.  383 pp. The Lyndoniad by William Guy.  Xlibris.  444pp. On my second trip to Mexico—I believe the year was 1991—my wife and I had arrived at the Basilica ...
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  • Facing Desire
    Open to Desire: Embracing a Lust for Life. Insights from Buddhism & Psychotherapy by Mark Epstein.  Gotham Books.  227 pp.  ***1/2 The Durrell-Miller Letters 1935-80. Edited by Ian S. MacNiven.  New Directions.  528 pp.  $21.89 In Open to Desire, psychiatrist and longtime Buddhist practitioner Mark Epstein takes on the central paradox of the Buddha’s Four Noble Truths.  ...
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  • He Can’t Get Started
    Normal People a Hulu Original Series by Lenny Abramson and Hettie Macdonald.  With Daisy Edgar-Jones, Paul Mescal, Desmond Eastwood, Sarah Greene.  *** I thought this series would be right up my alley.  It’s a coming of age story about a young Irishman who wants to be a writer; we see one year of high school and ...
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  • You Got It All Wrong
    Balthazar book two of the Alexandria Quartet by Lawrence Durrell. Faber.  884 pp.  $16.95. This is a brilliant idea for a series of novels.  Kudos to Lawrence Durrell for even thinking of it.  But then for the man who conceived it to have a superb poetic style, an interest in religion and psychology and just about ...
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  • Making Up for Lost Time
    Justine book one of the Alexandria Quartet by Lawrence Durrell.  Faber.  884 pp.  $16.99 I’ve always been a book snob and have never read things when everyone else did.  I didn’t read The Way of Zen—which changed my life—until my late thirties, though everyone else I knew read it in college.  I read my wife’s copy, ...
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  • Inconceivable
    Private Life a film by Tamara Jenkins.  With Kathryn Hahn, Paul Giamatti, Molly Shannon, Kayli Carter.  Streaming on Netflix.  ***** I never had a problem getting a woman pregnant.  My problem was not getting a woman pregnant.  So I’ve never known much about couples failing to conceive.  It’s a whole field of medicine these days, and ...
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  • When Ritual Goes Too Far
    Unorthodox, a four-part series by Maria Schrader.  With Shira Haas, Amit Rahav, Jeff Wilbusch.  Netflix ***** Unorthodox is an absolutely brilliant piece of work, and I can’t recommend it too highly.  Four episodes of roughly 50 minutes apiece, it shows a woman from an Orthodox community in Williamsburg Brooklyn fleeing her family and taking off for ...
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  • World of Women
    Portrait of a Lady on Fire a film by Celine Sciamma.  With Noemie Merlant, Adele Haenel, Luana Bajrami, Valeria Golino. ***** Portrait of a Lady on Fire is set on an estate in 18th century Brittany, and in an early scene an artist named Marianne (Noemie Merlant) travels there, rowed by a group of men; from ...
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  • You Think You Got Problems
    The Problem with Everything: My Journey Through the New Culture Wars by Meghan Daum.  Gallery Books.  224 pp.  $27.00. **** I’ve been thinking a lot about my college days lately, perhaps because I’m coming up on my 50th reunion.  If I could name one overwhelming sentiment that characterized my generation’s arrival at college, it was: don’t ...
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  • What Violence Begets
    Queen and Slim a film by Melina Matsoukas.  With Daniel Kaluuya, Jodie Turner-Smith, Bokeem Woodbine.  Written by Lena Waithe  ***** This is a stupendous movie, another absolute must see, by a group of people I hadn’t encountered before (which may be a failing on my part).  The acting, directing, and cinematography are all marvelous, but the ...
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  • Truly
    Unbelievable a limited Netflix series by Lisa Cholodenko, Michael Dinner, Susannah Grant.  With Kaitlyn Dever, Toni Collette, Merritt Wever.  ***** Unbelievable is a series about a serial rapist, a fact which would normally have taken it off my list.  I’m interested in crime dramas, like most people, but rape is too hard to take.  But Unbelievable ...
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  • Young Man with a Horn
    A Good Day to Die a novel by Jim Harrison.  A Delta Book.  176 pp. $7.95 (in 1973) ** It’s startling to realize that, after a first novel that was the semi-autobiographical and rather random ruminations of a poet who loved the natural world, Jim Harrison, with A Good Day to Die, suddenly became a novelist.  ...
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  • Words For What Is Beyond Words
    Secret Body: Erotic and Esoteric Currents in the History of Religions by Jeffrey J. Kripal.  University of Chicago Press.  478 pp. Jeffrey J. Kripal is a religious writer like no other I’ve ever read.  He grew up as a Catholic in Nebraska, for instance (there are Catholics in Nebraska?)  He was devout, actually entered a seminary ...
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